The clip of the girl sharing the video received more than 1 million views on the TikTok platform with the content "Dressed beautifully, put on makeup for 2 hours to go on a date, but was only invited to 1 cup of coffee". After that, this girl said she broke up with this male friend because she thought they were not gallant and would not pay. This girl's story caused a lot of controversy, in which many people also shared similar cases such as: Being forced to share money to pay for meals or not being given gifts...
From an experienced perspective, I realized, "Are we complicating and taking dating seriously?". I remember my generation, everything was very simple, even my husband and I (also my first love) went on a date at a familiar restaurant to chat and ask about each other's lives.
For me, dating, getting to know each other and officially entering a relationship is a long journey that cannot be hastily judged and concluded. But do many people now say that we have too many opportunities and many people to learn about, so the first date and meeting is very superficial and hasty judgments about the other person?
As a woman, I also like the gallantry of the other person, the fact that they pay for me during the first date's meal, I think this is not wrong. Because it proves that he wants to conquer, wants to understand himself.
However, it is fair to say that girls themselves need to have their own sophistication and cannot accept it one-sidedly. Maybe instead of expecting him to pay for everything for the date, girls should proactively ask to pay a few small fees, even send gifts in return or simply invite the guy back. Go out to dinner on your next date.
Not only women but men also need to receive something in return when they give. It is not necessarily in the material aspect but also in the spiritual value through the other person's kind behavior and behavior. And if possible, always know how to respond. You can't just assume that because you're a man, it's absolutely up to you to pay for dates.
