The story shared on social networks of Ms. Ha Chi (character name has been changed) after many years of living in a marriage that continuously appeared cracks because her husband cheated.
According to her sharing, she discovered that her husband had a romantic relationship with another person many times in more than 10 years.
Every time something happened, she persuaded herself to let it go, thinking that if she tried, her family could still continue.
But betrayals kept repeating.
At one point, in addition to her husband's affair, the family also faced economic difficulties. Consecutive shocks caused her to fall into a state of collapse, and even had to face mental health problems for a period of time.
Perhaps because of the children, because of the family, and also because I once thought that my husband would change," she shared.
But that belief was once again put at a test when she discovered that her husband continued to have a relationship with another woman.
What hurt her was not only her husband's continued affair but also the intimate images of the two people being publicly posted on social networks. She said those images made her collapse.
In a moment of extreme pain and anger, she posted the incident on social networks. After that, before the requests from related people, she chose to remove the post.
That decision made her fall into a state of tug-of-war. Part of her wanted to forgive, wanted to close everything to bring life back to normal. But another part could not accept what had happened.
What makes this woman most deadlocked is that she has given her husband opportunities many times. Every time she discovers betrayal, she hopes it will be the last time. But when the old story has not really subsided, a new hurt reappears.
She began to wonder if she was too weak and weak? Why can someone constantly hurt their partner but the person who stays must still be the one who seeks healing? Why after many betrayals, does the wife still have to persuade herself to forgive? And if she chooses to stay, how can she trust her husband again?
Ms. Chi said that currently what makes her most tired is not the gossip outside but the war taking place inside her.
She shared that she wants to forget but cannot. Wants to forgive but her heart is not yet peaceful. Wants to move on but does not know where to start.
Perhaps the most painful thing after an affair is not just the moment of discovering the truth. It is also the days afterwards, when the injured person has to live with a series of unanswered questions and images that they cannot erase themselves from their memory.
She is still standing between two choices: continue the marriage that has had too many wounds or end everything to find a different life.
She does not know whether to forgive or let go. She does not know how to regain faith and also does not know if she can continue to live peacefully in that marriage or not?
Readers can leave comments under the article, share perspectives and advice so that Ms. Ha Chi can have more references in the current situation.
