Recently, many famous stars and artists have publicly announced their marriages and children but have not yet held weddings. Not only the artists, a part of today's youth also choose to live together and ignore wedding rituals.
This has caused many mixed opinions in public opinion. Many people think that holding a wedding is a mandatory act before getting married, while others affirm that marriage does not necessarily have to start with a wedding.
According to Ms. Mai Anh (32 years old, Hanoi), it is not necessary to have a wedding, we can live together and have children together. A wedding is just a formality. If young couples do not care too much about the form, there is no need to organize a communal house ceremony.
In contrast to that view, Ms. Pham Thuy (40 years old, Hanoi) emphasized the role of the wedding ceremony: "This is an opportunity for relatives on both sides to recognize an important milestone of a couple before officially living together. Therefore, I do not agree with the free lifestyle of young people, if I like it, I organize a wedding, and if I don't like it, I ignore it".
Each person has their own point of view and no one can force others to do what they want, the important thing is still the choice of the people involved.
According to psychologist Tue An: Vietnam is still an Eastern country, still heavily influenced by traditional ideology. But many young people today go to school in the West, and learn the Western lifestyles. The Western way of life emphasizes freedom".
Therefore, young people have a rather " freely" mindset about getting married, as long as they live happily together, and formal issues are not too important.
Psychologist Tue An also emphasized that it is not necessary to have a wedding to have a happy marriage. A wedding is a beautiful memory for some people, but for others, it is not really necessary.
reality has shown that many couples do not hold weddings or get married after having children but still have a happy married life.
registering marriage is to comply with the law, organizing a wedding is to maintain traditional rituals. This may be a Binding factor that makes each person more responsible for their marriage, but not all.
Because when they have a marriage certificate and are committed to living together, they must know how to love, share, understand, respect themselves and the other person. That is the factor that determines the complete happiness of a marriage.
However, a marriage that wants to go long-term must have a marriage certificate and must comply with marriage laws. Living freely does not mean living together if you like it, having children if you like it, or breaking up if you like it. Thus, it is very difficult for us to have true happiness.
