The first time bringing a lover home to meet family is considered an important milestone in the love life of many couples.
Indeed, recently the story of a girl named Ngo Thanh Huyen (character name has been changed) sharing on social networks about the experience of bringing her boyfriend home to meet her family for the first time is receiving attention and lively discussion.
According to Huyen's sharing, she took her boyfriend home to meet her parents. Before that, Huyen had proactively reminded her boyfriend that her family quite valued etiquette.
She affirmed that she did not ask her boyfriend to prepare expensive gifts, just hoping he would bring a small gift to show respect in the first meeting with her boyfriend's parents.
I also said if you don't know what to buy, let me show you. A bouquet of flowers or a box of cakes is fine, no need to be fussy," Huyen shared.
However, when her boyfriend appeared in front of her house, the gift he brought with him surprised her.
In his hand was a bag of guava. I froze," she recounted.
According to Huyen, what makes her feel awkward is not because of how much the guava bag is worth, but the feeling of embarrassment when standing in front of her parents. Her mother still happily receives gifts and says you can go home, while her father hardly mentions this.
“All that day I felt embarrassed. He still talked normally as if nothing had happened, and I kept thinking about whether he really understood the meaning of first meeting his girlfriend's parents or not,” Huyen said.
Under the article, a part of netizens commented in agreement with the girl, saying that the guava bag is not the problem, but in the context that his girlfriend had reminded him in advance about preparing a polite gift, the boy's action may make others feel that he has not really paid attention.
No one forces you to buy expensive gifts. A neat basket of fruits, a box of cakes or a small gift is enough. The important thing is to prepare for a special occasion," one opinion commented.
Besides, many people also think that the first time meeting their lover's family is an opportunity to show respect, not only to the other person's parents but also to their own lover. When reminded in advance but still prepared superficially, the problem may lie in superficiality rather than material value.
I have to speak up to advise on this case. Let's not discuss personality or income because just through one story, it is difficult to fully assess a person. If even from basic things, you are not subtle, do not proactively care and think for others, then later it is very likely that everything in life will be taken care of by the woman. The act of bringing a bag of guava to introduce to your girlfriend's family, in my opinion, is disrespectful to the bride's family," an account expressed.
Besides, Phuong Ha's account also left comments that said: "This man is really lacking in sophistication and somewhat too carefree. Material things do not determine everything, but the first time he comes to meet his girlfriend and he doesn't pay attention to gifts and rituals, it's clearly a lack of respect for his girlfriend's family. Girlfriend, you should listen to your parents' careful analysis. Love is still easy to ignore, but living together for a long time and being carefree in everything, missing everything, the person who suffers and has to bear the brunt is mostly a woman. Personally, I don't approve this case! ".
From a small bag of guava, the story has opened up a larger debate about the culture of behavior when first introducing a lover's family. How much gift is enough? Where is the boundary between simplicity and lack of sophistication?
