In early June, Hue City residents were shocked to hear that a man had murdered his ex-wife and mother-in-law, seriously stabbing his brother-in-law right at home. The victims were people who were once attached to the same family. The case not only made public opinion angry but also left a lasting pain, grief for relatives and the whole community.
Divorce is a legal decision, ending a couple relationship but not necessarily ending humanity, and cannot be an excuse to nurture hatred, leading to revenge, causing harm to others and self-destruction.
In many heartbreaking cases in recent times, conflicts after divorce are the cause of extreme acts: murder of ex-wives, attacking relatives on the outside, even kidnapping, threatening joint children. These stories show that, besides legal regulations, what is lacking is behavioral skills, emotional control and psychological support after divorce - especially for people with signs of psychological and behavioral disorders.
According to UN Women (UN agency for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women), some people who suffer from prolonged negative emotions after divorce, if not properly supported, can easily lead to violence. The heartbreaking stories of recent times are clear evidence of this assessment.
A broken marriage is something no one wants. But if you have chosen to end it, behave civilly, especially when there is still a shared responsibility for your children between the two. Children are not at fault for parents no longer living together, and should not be indirect victims of adult hatred.
Psychologist Daniel Goleman - author of the book "Emotional Intelligence" once wrote: "Hate is a double-edged sword - the one who holds it not only hurts others but also bled himself."
Everyone needs to learn to leave calmly, let go in civilization. An unhappy marriage should end to free both of them, but should not be the starting point for hatred, violence or crime.
