In many families, mothers play a central role in raising children and maintaining a common atmosphere. However, according to international psychologists, there are personality types that can make the family suffocated if prolonged, while also hindering the healthy development of children.
The first is that the mother is too controlling. According to Psychology Today, mothers who always interfere in all of their children's decisions - from studying, friends to emotions - easily make children lack confidence, fear mistakes and not dare to make their own choices. In the long term, children are at high risk of anxiety, stress and difficulty adapting when entering an independent environment.
Second, my mother often criticizes and is never satisfied. The American Psychological Association (APA) said that frequently criticizing and comparing children to others reduces self-respect, causing children to feel "not good enough". This directly affects learning motivation and future career development ability.
Third, my mother has too high expectations. A report in verywell Mind shows that the pressure to achieve beyond your ability makes children susceptible to chronic stress, loss of interest in studying and even avoiding challenges for fear of failure. Instead of improving, children can take advantage or resist subtly.
In the end, my mother sacrificed herself extremely but always felt resentful. When mothers constantly mention their sacrifice, children are easily guilt-prone, psychological pressure and have difficulty developing independent emotions. Experts from Healthline warn that this type of interaction makes family relationships tense and mentally unsafe.
Experts recommend that, instead of controlling or imposing, mothers should listen, respect their emotions and give their children space to develop appropriately according to their age. A positive family environment with less pressure is an important foundation for children to build a solid future.
