Don't marry the person you love the most, marry the person who understands you best
Emotions can sublimate, but understanding is what keeps two people together. That understanding does not come from a few words of greeting, but from the process of observing, listening and accepting even imperfect parts of each other.
Marriage is not about finding someone who makes you always happy, but about finding someone sophisticated enough to be by your side even when you are not okay.
Don't have the mentality "the other person has to change for you
Right from when you are in love, if you have to tell yourself "that's how they are now, it will be different later", then it is very likely that you are persuading yourself more than believing in reality.
Love is the time when people are most easily changed, but if even when in love they still make you hesitate, then entering marriage, those things usually do not disappear but become clearer.
Learn to argue civilizedly
Arguing is not a sign of a bad relationship, but it is inevitable when two people are attached enough. A proper debate is when both of you talk about the issue, know when to stop, know how to listen and do not try to win or lose, that is the way to keep a relationship long-lasting.
Money is not a sensitive matter
Many couples avoid talking about money even when they are in love because they are afraid of "losing emotions". But in reality, the more they avoid it, the more likely conflicts will be later.
Differences in spending, saving or financial responsibility if not clarified from the beginning will silently accumulate into pressure. Being honest about money is not practical, but a way for both of you to understand each other and avoid unnecessary rifts.
Always keep a "independent" part
Even when in love or married, everyone still needs a private space to be themselves. Having personal friends, hobbies or personal goals does not make feelings distant, but on the contrary, helps you not be completely dependent on the other person and lose yourself less.
