Husband cheats, wife must apologize
After more than 10 years of raising her family, Ms. Thu Mai (40 years old, Hanoi) was convinced that she was living in a solid marriage. Her husband is a quiet, responsible person and rarely speaks out loudly. But that trust collapsed when she discovered that he had an affair with a female colleague.
When I questioned him, he did not apologize but said I was heartless, leaving him lonely in his own house. I was shocked and injured twice, Ms. Thu Mai shared.
More bitterly, she was advised by her mother-in-law, 'A smart woman must know how to keep her husband' and was forced to be discipline by the whole family.
"The betrayal was him, but the one who had to apologize was me," Thu Mai choked up.
A similar situation occurred to Ms. Thanh Thao (34 years old, Hanoi). After her husband used the excuse of "working overtime" to come home late many times, she secretly checked her phone and discovered that he had someone else. When they confronted each other, her husband reacted strongly and left.
"I was silent for a few days. But thinking about my child as young as he was, I was the one who texted first, hoping he would come home. Although I know I'm not wrong, I still feel guilty, because I get obsessed with being obsessed with making him bored with my wife'', Thanh Thao confided.
Many women fall into this paradoxical spiral. In society, prejudice against wives who cannot keep their husbands is due to not being good enough, causing many wives to suffer double pain: both betrayal and guilt.
Psychological disorder causes the victim to feel inferior
Experts warn that this is a form of silent but persistent mental abuse. According to Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh - Lecturer majoring in Sociology, Academy of Journalism and Communication, this is a clear manifestation of psychological manipulation in marriage.
The husband used words to blame, distorted reality to make his wife lose confidence and doubt herself, thereby accepting to suffer and finding ways to hold on.
This is a form of mental abuse. Victims often do not realize that they are being controlled. They are self-conscious and live in poverty even though they have done nothing wrong, said Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh.
According to Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh, the first step to escape this spiral is to admit the truth - that you are being manipulated. Then, it is necessary to seek support from relatives or psychologists.
"Everyone deserves to be loved in a respectful and equal relationship," the expert emphasized.
