According to Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh - lecturer at the Academy of Journalism and Communication, majoring in Sociology, psychological manipulation in love is a form of mental abuse.
In which, a person tries to control the other person's thoughts, emotions and actions to serve personal interests.
Warning signs
According to Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh, psychological manipulation is not easy to identify from the beginning because it is often hidden under the guise of care and love. However, some recurring symptoms may be warning signs.
- She set
The manipulationist tries to separate the victim from friends and family, leaving them with no other support than the other person.
- Depreciate
They often criticize, mock or take lightly what belongs to the victim. It reduces self-respect and makes the victim suspicious of himself.
- Fault
In all situations, the manipulation always makes the other person feel at fault.
- Irregular emotional changes
In the afternoon, sometimes cold for no reason, the victim always lives in a feeling of insecurity.
- Using pity or guilt
They tell, lament or remind victims of what they have sacrificed, to keep control.
- Gaslighting - extinguishing reality
The manipulator denies the truth, making the other person suspect that it is their memory and awareness.
- Control
Every aspect of the victim's life - from clothes, friends, work - was monitored.
- Threatening, threatening
In some serious cases, threats can become a holding device.
How to get rid of psychological manipulation?
Dr. Tuyet Minh emphasized that escaping a psychologically manipulated relationship is not simple, because the victim often has eroded confidence in himself. However, there are still concrete steps to gradually regain freedom and mental safety.
- Identifying problems
The first step is to admit that you are being manipulated.
- Plan your departure
Prepare finances, safe accommodation and support.
- Seek help
From friends, family, psychologist or organizations to support victims.
- Quarrel to the border
Cut off communication, avoid falling into the "repetition of emotions" with the manipulator.
- Focus on recovery
renew your spirit, reconnect with life and positive values.
- Believe in yourself
Learn to listen to yourself, regain self-respect and feel worthy.
