When a breakup is no longer a personal matter
In the era of strong social media development, breaking up is no longer a personal story between two people.
Many young people today choose to put negative emotions after a breakup on digital platforms such as writing an implied status line, posting a story "faking off" their ex-lover, or even livestreaming publicly to recount the conflict.
Not only famous people, this trend is becoming more and more popular and widespread in the younger community. Especially in the group of people who have the habit of sharing their lives on social networks.
Nguyen Ha My (Nam Tu Liem, Hanoi) shared: "I have seen my best friend post many articles recounting old stories after the breakup to relieve emotions, but then I felt ashamed because I shared too many private things online''.
As for Mr. Hoang Minh Tung (Dong Da, Hanoi), he looks at it from a different perspective.
Many people choose to peel the bottle because they think it is the only way to win back their voice. But the more I say, the more my personal image is lost. The online community only discussed it for a couple of days, and the consequences were that the person involved had to bear the burden for a long time, Mr. Tung shared.
The worrying thing is not the temporary emotions after the breakup, but the outbursts that are spread publicly. A post can only take a few minutes to write, but the consequences can last for months, even years.
Need to be alert before sharing a breakup online
According to Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh - lecturer at the Academy of Journalism and Communication, publicly accusing ex-lover is an unsuitable act and has many potential serious consequences.
There are more effective solutions to resolve conflicts in social relationships, including ex-lover. I think it is not advisable to publicly accuse your ex-lover. Exposing each other online is often offensive, blaming and releasing negative things' '', said Dr. Tuyet Minh.
According to Dr. Tuyet Minh, this rarely leads to a constructive solution or helps the parties learn and develop after the relationship.
Experts also warn that information spread online is often subjective, one-sided, easily distorted or added to serve personal emotions. This not only distorts the truth, but also creates a bad precedent in the way young people resolve conflicts.
Instead, the parties should choose more civilized and mature solutions such as in-person dialogue if possible, finding trusted friends or consultants, said Dr. Nguyen Thi Tuyet Minh.
