Lunar New Year is an occasion for reunions and reunions after a long year of hard work. However, for many people, especially young people, Tet also means facing a series of "familiar but uncomfortable" questions from relatives such as: "When will you get married?", "What is your monthly salary?", "Why haven't you had children yet?", "Do you intend to change jobs?". These seemingly harmless questions can become a major psychological pressure.
According to psychologists, relatives asking private questions often stems from communication habits and the desire to care, not necessarily with the intention of scrutinizing. However, a subtle way of asking questions can make the person being asked feel judged, compared or infringing on their personal life.
Stay calm and define appropriate boundaries
Aggressive or uncomfortable reactions only make the family atmosphere more tense. The person being asked needs to clearly define their privacy limits and choose the appropriate answer. One of the effective ways is to answer briefly, neutrally and without going into detail. For example, with an income question, you can answer: "I still have enough to spend and am trying harder every day". The answer is both polite and does not disclose personal information.
Skillfully redirect the story
Redirecting the conversation is a necessary communication skill in crowded gatherings. When encountering sensitive questions, you can gently switch to other topics such as health, spring travel plans, or ask about the person opposite. This approach helps avoid questions without creating a feeling of avoiding rudeness.
In addition, the humorous element can also work if used at the right time. A cheerful, gentle answer not only helps reduce stress for yourself but also makes the conversation atmosphere more comfortable.
Change perspective to reduce psychological pressure
Besides behavior, changing perspectives also helps each person reduce pressure when being asked. In case they feel too tired or hurt, young people should also share their feelings with trusted relatives to be understood and supported. Taking care of mental health during Tet is no less important than maintaining family relationships.
Tet is a time for reunion, not a time for each person to bear more pressure from social norms or expectations. When knowing how to behave skillfully and respect personal limits, each person can completely enjoy a gentler and more complete Tet.
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