In life, money is an essential means to survive, but for children, material shortage is not necessarily the deepest wound. What makes a child afraid and suffer long-term pain is often not poverty, but the way parents treat their children every day. There are behaviors that, if not changed, will make the gap between parents and children increase as they grow up.
Hot-tempered and using violence as a teaching tool
There is a saying: "A word can save a life, a word can also destroy a life." Many parents still scream and beat their children, then make the excuse " wanting good for them". In fact, violence only sows in children the fear, insecurity and closed-mindedness, even negative resistance.
Children who grow up in such an environment are likely to lose faith in their loved ones, fall into depression or develop distorted personalities. A father or mother may be poor in material things, but if they know how to control their anger, use gentle words, encourage their eyes and support their hands, then their children will always feel safe and loved - a solid foundation for them to grow up to be kind.
Comparing and lowering children in front of others
Someone elses child..., Why cant you be like that friend?, or You are really useless... - those statements seem unprecedented and un punished but are like an invisible sword, falling into your childs immature self-respect. When their efforts are not recognized, children will become attractive, lose confidence, live in fear and always worry about being criticized.
What children need is not a measure from outsiders, but trust, understanding and encouragement from parents. When parents know how to recognize and nurture their children's strengths, they will dare to step out of their comfort zone, dare to make mistakes and dare to stand up, and mature into the best version of themselves.
No example, inconsistent words and actions
Children not only learn from what their parents teach, but also from the way their parents live. If parents preach about ceremony but are harsh with others, asking their children to work hard but being lazy, all teaching will become empty.
Controversy between words and behavior is one of the reasons why children are disoriented and confused about life values. On the contrary, parents who live honestly, keep their promises, work hard and know how to admit their mistakes, despite difficult material conditions, are still a shining example for their children to follow. A living example will be engraved in the minds of young people more deeply than any advice.
Raising children is not only about feeding them well and dressing them warmly, but also fostering in their souls peace, confidence and kindness. When parents know how to control anger, respect their children and set an example, children will not only be close to their parents when they are young, but also want to return when they are old.
Love, if given properly, will be a strong bond that keeps children with their parents for life.
