I am 35 years old, my husband is 37. At an age when people are still called youthful, I feel like my marriage is on the point of extinguishing.
A very normal day, no arguments, no tragedy, no noise - I suddenly realized that between me and my husband, marriage had become an empty shell.
We are just two people living together, sharing the responsibility of raising children.
For nearly a year now, my husband has started to change. He became quiet, negligent, and often used busy excuses to avoid private moments between the couple.
The times he came home late, he quietly ate rice and then quietly went to work, gradually lasting until that quiet became a habit.
I thought that work made him tired. I am looking for a change - from taking care of myself more to proactively creating a cozy space in the house. But all efforts were on one side. He is still silent, still far away, still no longer the warm eyes he once had on me.
And then, not long ago, he said directly: "I want to have my own space for a while".
He immediately moved to the office to sleep, saying that he wanted to be quiet, wanted to rest, wanted to think. At that time, I really felt uneasy.
I always thought that U40 will be a stable age in marriage - when children are strong, the economy begins to be strong, and the feelings will become even more attached after the storms.
But now, I feel like I am standing on the edge, struggling not knowing how to save myself, or should I try harder.
I love my husband, I have never thought about giving up. But because I was still in love, I felt even more hurt when the other person wanted to withdraw from the space that was their home.
Is it possible that... The U40s are really the end of a marriage?
