The pressure to have children early is on young women after marriage
After getting married, there are few "regular" girls who encounter familiar questions such as "When will you have a baby" or " why should you give birth early to be safe for grandparents", those urging cases unintentionally turn the birth story into a heavy psychological pressure for many women.
Ms. Vu Ngoc Vy (25 years old, Hanoi) shared that even though they have just been married for less than half a year, she was constantly urged by her mother-in-law to have children with the reason "to get married and have grandchildren right away".
'Every time I explained that I wanted to have a job and a stable mentality' before getting pregnant, my mother-in-law always thought' that I was selfish and didn't know how to think for my husband's family'', Ms. Ngoc Vy said.
The prolonged pressure "kmk Ngoc Vy always feels anxious, stressed and scared" about the house of the poor.
Similarly, Ms. Nguyen Mai Linh (28 years old, Hanoi) said that she was once abused by her husband because she had not become pregnant after a year of marriage.
''Getting married at an age that is not too early, not too late, my husband and my family want to have children. But the lack of preparation time makes me wonder whether I am ready to become a mother or not, said Ms. Mai Linh.
The husband's family often compared Mai Linh to other brides "to be pregnant immediately after getting married", making her feel that her value was being beaten up just enough to be able to give birth.
These stories show that the pressure to have children is not only an individual problem but has become a common psychological burden for many young women after marriage.
How to make the journey to make parents less stressed
Sharing about this issue, psychologist Nguyen Minh Duyen - NHC Vietnam Center for Psychology and Human Development - emphasized that: "First of all, young couples need to be united, discuss and discuss with each other about the time of giving birth. When both are ready to welcome a little angel, having a new child really has a positive meaning for family life.
''Along with that, "the preparation of the wife's family is very "necessary". Women must be well equipped with "money, knowledge and" skills" to "work well", "having children" and taking care of children. This is a period of many fluctuations, requiring great adaptation both physically and mentally, said the expert.
Expert Nguyen Minh Duyen also believes that the sophistication and companionship of the husband will significantly reduce the pressure on the wife.
"Going to a regular check-up with your wife, sharing the responsibility of taking care of your child, as well as caring for your wife's feelings, especially during pregnancy and after giving birth, will create cohesion and understanding in marriage," the expert emphasized.
Having children should not be a rush decision or just to "satisfy expectations". When couples prepare carefully and accompany each other, the journey of becoming parents will become a loving experience, where women are respected and families are built on a solid foundation.
