Having gone through a broken marriage lasting 6 years, Ms. K.H met her current husband through the introduction of friends.
At that time, she learned that he was in the stage of separation and preparing to complete the divorce procedures. The calmness, gentleness and understanding of the man 8 years older than her gradually made her open her heart, although deep down there were still many doubts.
However, this relationship soon encountered the biggest barrier from her husband's family, especially her mother-in-law. Although the two had legally registered their marriage and had children together, Ms. K.H was still not recognized. For many years, she lived in silence, having to hide her identity, hiding both happiness and her own hurts.
The tragedy was pushed to a climax by a misunderstanding related to renting a room. Near Tet, when her husband went to Vung Tau to work as a nurse, Ms. K.H stayed at home to continue her hairdressing work. Her mother-in-law suddenly came, listened to the gossip from neighbors and misunderstood when she saw the room tenant walking out of her room. Without an opportunity to explain, Ms. K.H was asked by her father-in-law to leave the house immediately.
After that, the husband returned, quietly picked up the belongings of his wife and children and took the two mothers and children away in silence. Since that time, the relationship with her husband's family has completely cracked.
Ms. K.H returned to her hometown, doing all kinds of jobs to earn a living, both raising children and bearing debts. Meanwhile, her husband had to live a "going back and forth", lying to his mother to try to keep both sides together.
At the "Third Person" program, Ms. K.H admitted that what makes her most tormented is not only her "third person" status, but also the fact that her daughter has to grow up in a family lacking legitimacy, where the truth is always hidden. She understands that she cannot continue to avoid or wait for others to face the problem for her.
Psychologist Dr. To Nhi A gave a frank perspective that, in this story, the mother-in-law is not completely wrong. In the position of a mother, protecting her son, property and family values is understandable.
According to the female expert, the solution does not lie in silence or waiting, but in daring to proactively face, dare to meet, dare to say sorry and thank you, even if the results may not be as desired.
As one of the rare guests who chose to "turn on the light" to reveal her identity on television, Ms. K.H sent a message to her mother-in-law, expressing gratitude for the years her mother took care of her grandchild on behalf of her daughter-in-law. What she longed for was not an excuse, but an opportunity to meet, be understood and live properly in her small family.
