Ms. B's family has 3 siblings, two older brothers and Ms. B is the youngest. Ms. B's family is well-off and has full facilities. After Ms. B got married in 2012, her second and third brothers also got married.
After many years of working and saving, Ms. B and her husband were able to buy a house. Ms. B asked her parents to let her move out in 2023. Meanwhile, her second and third brothers' families still live with their parents.
After getting married, the second brother started to listen to his friends' temptation to gamble. When sister B had been living alone for two months, her parents decided to divide the property among the three brothers.
The second brother moved out with a piece of land, sister B got a piece of land, and the third brother lived with his parents and enjoyed the house. The second brother borrowed his parents' pension, savings, and gold bracelets under the pretext of investing in business.
Later, he did not pay, with the reason: "I invested in business, but business is difficult these days, I do not have money to pay."
He took it outright and never mentioned the money. Not long after, the third brother bought a small piece of land himself and was tricked by the second brother into selling it for money. The house his parents gave him, the second brother also wanted to take it.
The second brother came up with a plan to return to the shared house to live in. The third brother and his wife were kind and loved him so much that they let him live with them. Near Tet, the second brother said he needed capital to invest in selling ornamental plants and needed to deposit one billion dong for the garden house. The second brother urged the third brother to pawn the house's red book. The third brother listened but did not expect that the second brother and his wife would gamble away one billion dong and lose everything.
Ms. B talked about her worries to her husband many times. Her husband gently said: "You are like that, now the only way is to talk sweetly, advise and hope that God will bless you to work hard."
Ms. B's husband created an opportunity for her second brother to work at the company from morning to night in the hope that he would have a job, but he refused. Ms. B still had a piece of land given to her by her parents, which she did not need to use yet. She asked her husband to help sell the land to pay off the 1 billion VND debt to her second brother. Ms. B's husband agreed.
After listening to the story, Dr. To Nhi A - lecturer at the Central Pedagogical College in Ho Chi Minh City - asked: "Do you feel your husband tired when witnessing all the chaotic circumstances of your family? What will happen when your husband feels that his wife only thinks about her second brother, and does not care about the small family? Do you really love your husband?
You must know your own strength. You are not the cause of your family's suffering. You have done your duty as a younger sibling, fulfilled your duty as a younger sibling, fulfilled your duty to your parents. Why do you make things difficult for yourself?
The female doctor advised Ms. B: “What you have to do right now is to know the safety limit. Regarding money, you have to be tough and think carefully, you should remember that money is gone once it is given, it will never come back to you.
Take good care of your parents. If your parents love your second brother too much and put pressure on your third brother, you and your husband can only advise them and not interfere too deeply. Look back at your family and your duty is to take care of your children and husband.
