Without arguing, without betrayal, without incident, Ms. Ha Linh's married life (Hoan Kiem, Hanoi) is still in crisis.
Every day that passed smoothly without emotion made the couple become strangers at some point.
There is nothing to complain about, but there is nothing to look forward to, that is how Ms. Ha Linh describes her marriage after more than ten years of living together.
Ms. Linh's husband is always a principle person, rarely speaks and shares feelings. During the years together, they tried to get along and considered it okay, even safe. But gradually, it was that silence that made her feel empty.
"We didn't argue, but we didn't really talk anymore. Many days, the couple sat down to eat together but no one answered more than three questions, nor did they feel like laughing at each other, Ms. Linh said.
The crisis does not come from a major incident, but from the repetition, regularity and inadequacy of married life.
She realized that he was too tired because of his workload. Don't get angry, don't blame or lament. It's just that I take it back and don't share it with anyone.
Instead of blaming or blaming, Ms. Linh learned to pay more attention to her husband's feelings. She took care of every meal, took the initiative to start a conversation and gently asked Han.
The results did not come immediately, but it was patience that made a miracle. The husband who was once labeled by her as "cold, closed" has begun to become more open and closer.
Its not like to say anything. When you change your behavior, the person next to you will open your heart to receive your feelings. I don't expect my husband to change completely, I just hope he learn to balance himself to feel a little less secure," Ms. Linh shared.
For Ms. Linh, if the marriage is just too quiet for too long, it will easily make the other person subjective. Not having a storm does not mean there is no problem.
The important thing is that both of them also want to adjust together, so as not to slide further apart.
