Ms. B met her husband later through the introduction of a co-working friend.
Before getting married, she discussed with her child: "My father and mother have been separated for 10 years. At that time, my mother saw that her child was still young, so she did not dare to take any further steps, now that child is also grown up, well enough to understand. Maybe you will take a step further, the stepfather can help you take care of your child, when he is an adult". At that time, Ms. B's son was just silent.
When they met, Ms. B saw him as a gentle, kind person, a civil servant. He has a child of his own but the child lives with his ex-wife. She felt that he could take care of her and her mother. At that time, she also told him to try to get close and convince him to accept.
"I have my own house, so the couple lives separately with their son. Her husband is a basic salary civil servant, so her grandparents still provide living expenses every month. Thanks to my husband's family's support for living expenses, life has improved somewhat," Ms. B confided.
During their time together, conflicts began to arise between her and her husband, especially regarding their own child. Every time there was a conflict, he often dragged his child out to curse, sometimes even beat her. When she gave her opinion, he told her to take care of her child, Ms. B felt stuck and didn't know how to balance between her husband and children.
Once, his child took him to a group of students, while the two children were arguing a bit loudly, he angrily scolded him fiercely.
When her husband returned to the room, she went to her child's room to comfort him: "I work hard, I'm still a stepfather. If I love you, I will forgive you. At that time, the mother and daughter could only hug each other and cry.
"Since the birth of our child together, as a girl, I have loved and cherished the child to the fullest, but my son has been indifferent, cold, and considered a thorn in the eyes," Ms. B revealed.
Ms. B once thought he would be a support for her child, but in reality, it was not as expected. She always tries to be good to her husband's family,...
Ms. B felt sad and sad, not understanding why her stepchild was being treated like that. Once, her child came home from school and asked to go out with a friend, but came home a bit late. Just like that, her husband used the excuse of scolding her child, but when she defended, he turned around and beat her. "I think divorce is my daughter's fault, if I divorce, I will have two husbands and two children. Therefore, I endured and begged him to wait for his eldest son to be 18 years old to go to university, in a dormitory. I agreed to listen to that, Ms. B said.
Currently, Ms. B's son is 20 years old and is renting a house outside the boarding house.
After hearing the story, psychologist To Nhi A commented: I protect myself very well, but I forget that my son from the age of 12 to 20 years old lives in prison, is miserable, and is desensitized. Fortunately for her, her son did not commit the act so early, when his son restrained himself and did not react to his stepfather. Please don't turn yourself into a victim, the two children are the victims. You must be aware of this problem.
At the end of the program, when asked if she wanted to turn on the lights so that the audience could recognize her, Ms. B refused because she was not confident about her current family story, afraid that the community would discuss it, which only made the conflict more tense.
