Many parents spend most of their time searching for secrets to raising their children to be intelligent and obedient, but inadvertently forget the most important foundation of the family: marital relationship. Reality shows that the emotional environment that children grow up in is directly influenced by how parents love, communicate and resolve conflicts with each other.
According to The Gottman Institute - a leading marriage and family research organization in the US, children living in families with stable marital relationships often feel more emotionally safe, thereby developing better behavior and emotional control ability. Conversely, prolonged stress between parents can make children anxious, easily withdrawn, or react negatively.
Many families fall into a vicious circle when all efforts are put on their children, and marital relations are placed at the bottom. According to Psychology Today, when parents only interact around responsibilities and obligations, emotional connection gradually declines. Children growing up in a cold or stressful atmosphere often learn to love through conflict, instead of understanding.
Harvard Health Publishing also pointed out that children observe how parents communicate to form patterns for later relationships. When parents know how to listen, respect boundaries and resolve disagreements healthily, children will learn to behave positively, confidently and respect others.
Raising children in a happy family does not require perfection. That is, husband and wife maintain the habit of chatting, sharing emotions, agreeing on how to raise children and not turning children into "arbiters" in adult conflicts. A safe enough marital relationship will create the best nurturing environment for children.
A happy family not only helps children grow up healthy in spirit, but also gives children the most valuable lesson: love is respect, peace and perseverance every day.
