Life pressure erodes emotions
In married life, changes in the wife's emotions and behavior do not occur randomly. According to psychologists, silence or coldness are often the result of enduring pressure, lack of connection and feelings of not being understood.
After many years of marriage, women often have to shoulder many roles at the same time: work, taking care of children, managing the family and maintaining interpersonal relationships. When the pressure accumulates for a long time, they are prone to exhaustion both physically and mentally.
At this time, romance or proactiveness in love is no longer a priority. Instead, they focus on "completing responsibilities" every day.
Dr. Sue Johnson - clinical psychologist, founder of Emotional Focus Therapy (EFT) in Canada - said: "When people fall into prolonged stress, they tend to withdraw to protect emotional energy.
Accumulated trauma and feelings of loneliness in marriage
Another reason comes from repeated injuries in marital communication. Many women once actively cared and shared, but when they did not receive positive feedback, they gradually retracted themselves as a self-protection mechanism.
Every time they are ignored or careless, faith is eroded. Over time, they choose to remain silent to avoid feelings of disappointment. The coldness at this time is not because love is gone, but because they no longer feel safe when expressing emotions.
Besides, feeling lonely right in the family is also an important factor. When the wife's efforts are not recognized, not listened to or shared, they easily fall into a state of "disconnection".
Dr. John Gottman - a marriage research expert at the Gottman Institute (USA) - said: "The feeling of being overlooked in a relationship is one of the biggest causes of emotional separation between husband and wife.
Reality shows that proactiveness in marriage does not come from one side. When the husband knows how to care, share and accompany, the wife will have more space to recover emotions and open up again.
Conversely, prolonged silence can become an invisible distance if both of you do not proactively remove it. A sustainable marriage requires understanding, listening and effort from both sides, so that the feelings do not gradually cool down over time.
