Raising children in modern times is no longer as simple as before. Children have better learning conditions, are cared for more fully, but many parents feel tired, stressed and always worry that they are raising children "not enough well". It is worth mentioning that the more they love their children, the more they fear their children will be disadvantaged, many families unintentionally create a paradox: parents do too many things for them, and children lack the ability to take care of themselves.
Many parents today are willing to sacrifice time, money and health so that their children can eat well, study well, and not be inferior to their friends. However, excessive protection sometimes prevents children from experiencing, not being able to solve problems themselves, and lacking emotional control skills.
Below are common paradoxes in raising children nowadays that many parents are facing.
The more parents do for you, the less independent your child becomes.
Many parents want their children not to work hard, so they do everything from eating, cleaning to resolving conflicts. But when everything is "cleaned up", children will not learn how to take care of themselves and easily develop a habit of being dependent.
The more parents give, the harder it is for children to know enough.
Children who are met all needs too quickly will find it difficult to learn patience and appreciation. This makes many children easily irritable, demanding and dissatisfied even though they have enough.
The more parents force children to study, the more likely they are to lose motivation.
Many families set too high academic goals, forcing their children to take extra classes densely because they are afraid of losing out. However, prolonged pressure can make children tired, bored with studying and study just to cope instead of really liking it.
The more parents control, the more likely children are to rebel.
Excessive control from time, friends to hobbies makes children feel disrespected. Many children react by resisting, lying, or withdrawing.
The more worried parents are, the more stressed children are.
Another paradox is that the more parents worry about their children, the more exhausted parents become. When parents always live in a state of stress, the family atmosphere also becomes heavy, affecting children's psychology.
Children need to be loved, but also need to be experienced and take responsibility according to their age. When parents know how to let go at the right time, children will have the opportunity to mature in the true sense.
