Many parents have fallen into the situation of being more and more tired of teaching their children. Children do wrong, parents scold. Children cry, parents are more annoyed. In the end, children do not improve but become silent, resist or have poor academic performance. It is worth mentioning that children are not "worn out" because they are scolded once, but because parents repeatedly scold incorrectly, causing children to lose faith in themselves.
The most common mistake is scolding children with offensive words like "You are so stupid", "You are useless".
These sentences do not teach children to correct mistakes, but only make them believe that they are really incompetent. When children have defaulted to failure, they will no longer want to try.
The second mistake is scolding your child in front of others.
Many parents think doing so is to save their children, but in reality it only makes children ashamed, hurt and increasingly distant. Children become more and more resistant as they feel defamed.
The third mistake is comparing your child to friends or siblings.
Comparison does not create motivation but creates inferiority. Children do not learn better, but only learn to be jealous and insecure.
The fourth mistake is scolding your child when parents are too angry.
In heat, words are often harsh and difficult to control. Many parents resent after scolding, but the wound in their child's heart is not easy to heal.
The fifth mistake is scolding lengthily, repeating it over and over again.
The longer you scold, the more callous the child becomes. At first, the child is scared, then the child gets used to it, and finally the child no longer listens.
The last mistake is to equate mistakes with personality.
A child doing something wrong does not mean they are a bad child. But many parents attribute it to their children, making them believe that they are "nothing".
If you want your child to improve, parents should scold them for their wrong behavior and guide them to correct it. A calm statement is sometimes a hundred times more effective than yelling.
