Divorce is not only a matter of two adults, but also deeply affects children. When parents continue to raise their children together after a divorce, they will face many difficulties in terms of emotions, communication and arranging their lives. Even though they are no longer husband and wife, the two still need to cooperate to ensure stability and happiness for their children. Here are some common difficulties that couples often encounter when raising children together during the divorce process, according to Marriage:
Personal emotional stress
Divorce often leads to many negative emotions such as sadness, anger or guilt. Meanwhile, parents still need to stay calm to be a support for their children. If they do not control their personal emotions well, they can unintentionally hurt their children. Therefore, identifying and regulating emotions is very important in the process of raising children after divorce.
Difficult communication between parents
After the divorce, maintaining effective communication between parents often faces many obstacles due to unresolved conflicts and negative emotions. Without a clear and calm discussion, issues such as school schedules, health care or holiday planning can easily lead to prolonged conflict.
Lack of consistency in parenting
Children develop best when the rules and limits are kept consistent. But when living in two environments with different parenting methods, children are easily confused, unstable, and even know how to take advantage of differences to achieve what they want. Therefore, parents need to unify basic principles in care and education to create stability and fairness for their children.
Difficulties in logistics and schedule
Arranging childcare time between two families becomes complicated when parents live apart or have different work schedules. Activities such as pick-up and drop-off, school schedules, extracurricular activities, holidays or vacations require careful planning and flexible coordination. Lack of organization can put stress on both parents and children, making important days a source of conflict instead of happy memories.
Protecting children from adult conflicts
Children should not become victims of post-divorce disputes. However, there are many cases where parents accidentally drag their children into war, by speaking ill of each other, blaming or forcing them to choose sides. The important thing is to keep your child away from unnecessary stress, not put them in an intermediary position and always emphasize that parents' love for their children is unchanged, even though their living circumstances are different from before.
