Appearing at the studio, Ms. Thu Phu introduced herself as a state employee. At the age of 50, she impresses with her positive energy, coherent and straightforward way of speaking. She admits that she is "integrated, not dissolved", dynamic, adapts quickly, but has a "shortcoming" of being addicted to work, having postponed many personal appointments due to work. She got married late, divorced after a year and raised her child alone from when she was just full month old. Her daughter is currently 14 years old.
And Mr. Nguyen Hoa has been a hairdresser for many years, living and working in Ho Chi Minh City. He said he is a bit shy when making programs, quiet, but is commented on as skillful, hardworking, and independent. He once shared his past working part-time in the real estate sector and was deceived, currently living with relatives during the time of starting a business in the city. He has two children, the eldest of whom is a final year university student. He said he has been divorced for many years, is currently living alone and hopes to find a suitable person to build a life.
The common point that made the initial conversation quite smooth was that both were grown up, experienced, had separate children and were oriented towards stability. Ms. Thu Phu set a fairly clear criterion: wanting a man who is upright, tolerant, knows how to take care of his family, is clean and loves children. Mr. Nguyen Hoa also emphasized his desire to meet a "loyal" person who loves his family.
The noteworthy moment came when the two entered the private conversation section. Ms. Thu Phu continuously asked questions "going straight to reality": views on having children at the age of 50, how to behave with stepchildren, family care responsibilities, plans to live in Ho Chi Minh City or return to the countryside, and especially the worst case scenario: if she is unemployed or not home, how will the two of them manage. Before the question "if I am unemployed, can you raise my two children and me?", Mr. Nguyen Hoa replied "yes", affirming that he will take care of them if they are compatible.
However, later on, Ms. Thu Phu increasingly expressed her demand for a "clear plan". Mr. Nguyen Hoa maintained a cautious way of speaking, in the style of "to the point of calculation", stating the option of "rent a house" if determined to stay in Ho Chi Minh City, or "return to the countryside and have a house". He also said that at this age "having children is okay, not having them is okay", the important thing is to live faithfully and know how to take care of each other. The difference is that: she needs a man who is proactive, decisive and shows concern with specific actions; while he is leaning towards gentleness, few words, choosing safety.
The program creates a small challenge to increase interaction, in which Mr. Nguyen Hoa is asked to "decorate" his female friend's hair, even though he specializes in men's hair. This is also a point that Ms. Thu Phu is concerned about: she hopes the other person will dare to try, dare to do it for the person they care about, instead of refusing because it is "difficult". For her, effort and proactive attitude are what determine long-term attachment.
When it came to pressing the heart button, Mr. Nguyen Hoa was ready, while Ms. Thu Phu apologized and refused. She frankly said that he was gentle but lacked decisiveness, not giving her the feeling of being protected. With a woman who is used to shouldering the burden, she did not want to continue "going out to handle everything" in a new relationship. At the end of the appointment, the program host expressed regret but respected the choice, and sent wishes for both of them to soon meet a suitable "fate" in the new year.
