According to the story shared by Mai Ngoc (name of the character has been changed) on social networks, her boyfriend's family is in business, has good economic conditions but sets many clear principles on houses, money and raising children. These things make her feel like an "alien" right before entering marriage.
Ngoc is from the Central region, currently working in an office in Hanoi with a salary of about 14 million VND/month. Her boyfriend is from Hai Phong, both live together and are preparing to get married in Hanoi.
Once when she went to her boyfriend's house, his mother actively invited her to drink tea, spa, and eat seafood at Do Son and then took the opportunity to talk privately about life after becoming a daughter-in-law. She believes that family matters are like business, everything needs to be clearly unified from the beginning.
According to the story, the house in Hanoi where her boyfriend is currently living is in his parents' name. After getting married, the two can continue to live here, but the transfer of ownership will depend on the attitude and family building process. If the couple is diligent in business, not necessarily rich, after about 4 years of marriage or when they have two children, the house can be transferred to both of them.
This makes Ngoc feel sad because she feels that giving birth is being placed next to the condition to receive property. She even feels like a "surrogate mother".
Her boyfriend's mother also said that her son currently has an income of nearly 30 million VND per month but is still supported by his parents because he has a habit of using branded goods, eating and traveling. After marriage, this support will be cut so that the two people can be independent. If her son is not mature enough to take care of his family, she believes that both should reconsider marriage.
This makes Ngoc worried that after the wedding, her boyfriend may unconsciously assume that the loss of support from her parents is due to her.
Regarding the children, the boyfriend's mother said that her grandparents will not look after the grandchildren because they are busy with work. The couple must take the initiative to take care of the children, and the grandparents will support milk, diapers and incurred medical expenses.
The issue of property was also clarified by her: parents' property is under the decision of parents, children have no right to interfere. Wedding congratulatory money and wedding gold will be managed by both husband and wife, and the cost of organizing the wedding will be paid by the family. If later capital is needed for business, parents can lend, not completely. This clarity makes Ngoc feel "cold".
In front of her boyfriend's mother, Ngoc could only answer "yes, yes". But when she returned to Hanoi, she began to be sad and angry with her boyfriend because she felt that the marriage was being calculated too clearly.
She understands that parents have the right to decide property and have no obligation to raise their grandchildren. What makes her wonder is whether after getting married, she is really considered a member of the family or just someone who builds a separate family with their son with conditions that have been set in advance.
The story is currently receiving many mixed opinions. A part of netizens believe that Ngoc is too "self-conscious", "childish" and not mature enough when looking at the sharing of her boyfriend's mother. Conversely, many people assess that the future mother-in-law is a modern, fair, generous and clear person in terms of finance as well as children's marriage.
The story also sparked debate about the concept of "matching degrees". Many opinions say that compatibility in marriage is not only in economic or family conditions but also in thinking, awareness and perspective on family responsibility.
One comment commented: "Girls have nothing in their heads other than self-esteem, but self-esteem because they are weak, then you should find someone on the same level as you to marry.
Readers can leave comments and share their views on the story so that Mai Ngoc has more perspective before making a marriage decision.
