In marriage, conflict is inevitable. However, according to psychologists, what is more dangerous than arguing is a prolonged "cold" state.
According to the announcement of the American Psychological Association, reducing positive interaction between husband and wife can weaken emotional bonds faster than normal conflicts. When two people no longer talk, share or care about each other's emotions, the distance will widen.
How dangerous is indifference?
The Gottman Institute points out that "emotional turnaround" – i.e., non-responsiveness, non-listening – is one of the warning signs of fractured marriage. It's not the loudest sound that hurts, but prolonged silence.
When a person feels they are no longer important in their partner's eyes, they will gradually withdraw. Psychology Today magazine noted that the feeling of being ignored can cause deeper hurt than criticism.
When two people live together but are no longer connected
Many couples still maintain a common life, raise children together, share financial responsibilities, but lack emotional closeness. They talk less, care less and no longer spend private time with each other.
According to experts, feelings do not disappear suddenly but fade gradually when not nurtured. A hug, a word of concern or sincere listening is sometimes more important than avoiding any conflict.
Sustainable marriage is not about not having no arguments, but about still maintaining connection and respect after each disagreement. When still caring and proactively healing, feelings still have the opportunity to be revived.
