Any romantic relationship goes through "firsts" full of unfamiliarity: the first date, the first deep conversation, the first disagreement, the first intimate moment and even the first apology. According to Dr. Devanshi Desai - a psychologist and marriage consultant, it is the way couples go through these milestones that will determine the quality of long-term engagement.
When the first impression lays the foundation
At the first date, many people try to show their perfect version. However, Dr. Devanshi Desai recommends that sincerity and respect for boundaries are the core elements.
Therefore, instead of "scoring points" with ostentatious stories, be truly present in the conversation, balance between speaking and listening, choose gentle topics and avoid sharing too much sensitive personal information. When the relationship goes further, the first serious conversation about life values, long-term goals or uncompromising things needs to be done with an open spirit. If you are not ready to talk about an issue, you can completely frankly admit and suggest an exchange at another time.
The first disagreement is also an important test. Conflict is not a sign of collapse, but an opportunity for two people to learn how to argue fairly. What needs to be avoided is personal attack or avoidance of the issue. When each side knows how to express emotions clearly and listen to the other's point of view, trust will be strengthened instead of eroded.
Intimacy and apology, a measure of maturity
The first intimate moment is often narrowed down to the sexual aspect, but according to Dr. Devanshi Desai, emotional intimacy is the deepest foundation. Sharing private thoughts, fears or secret dreams requires a high level of trust. With physical intimacy, consensus, clear communication and specific boundaries are mandatory for both to feel safe.
Professor John Gottman - a psychologist at the University of Washington, USA - believes that stable couples are not because they do not conflict, but because they know how to "fix" after conflict. A sincere and timely apology can prevent small conflicts from accumulating into long-term grievances. According to him, the ability to admit mistakes and express empathy is an important sign of emotional intelligence in marriage.
The first apology is therefore symbolic. It is not a decision-making battle, but a commitment to do better together. When both learn to reconcile early, the relationship will form the ability to recover from future pressures.
Love is not built on perfection, but on persistent effort and consistent emotional investment. Going through "first times" with respect, honesty and empathy is how each person protects their long-term happiness.
