From wearing couple clothes, collaborating photos to sharing a music list, those seemingly small actions bring a sense of attachment and romance to couples.
However, sometimes over-connection can erase personal boundaries, causing one to feel a loss of identity.
According to Dr. Mona Gujral, a psychologist and Indian relationship counselor, the lack of boundaries is the reason why many relationships become suffocating.
Setting limits often arouses guilt, especially when we believe that love means sacrifice, says Dr. Gujral. But true love is not to please others by forgetting oneself.
When the line is broken, small sacrifices in love life gradually accumulate, creating resentment and imbalance.
Always following the other person's opinions, from choosing movies to dressing can cause you to lose your personality.
Over time, a lack of respect for boundaries can lead to controlling behaviors, such as demanding personal passwords or interfering with personal interests.
Borderers are emotional, physical, and mental limits that protect your mental health, Dr. Gujral emphasizes. When expressed clearly, they help love maintain respect and fairness.
Psychologist Mona Gujral suggests 5 ways to help couples set boundaries without feeling guilty:
Accept the right to take care of yourself: You deserve your own time and space to recharge, even in a relationship.
Express your need frankly: Express your emotions in personal language, such as I/you/uy feel tired when... to avoid blaming the other person.
Start with small things: Start with simple steps, such as declining calls when tired or taking time for yourself.
Resolutely within the boundary: Do not send signals of conflict that confuse the other person. Hold your position.
Relieve guilt: Remember that you are not responsible for others' feelings, but just be honest with yourself.
Setting up boundaries does not distance love, but helps two people understand each other better, creating a foundation for healthy attachment and mutual respect.
