Scolding or beating children when they make mistakes is still happening in many families. Many parents believe that scolding or using corporal punishment will help children listen and change their behavior quickly. However, many experts say that teaching children with anger can leave negative effects on children's psychology and development.
Dr. Preeti Singh - clinical psychology consultant and psychotherapist at Paras Hospital (India) - said that parents often shouting or beating their children can make children feel pain, fear and shame. Although this method sometimes brings immediate results, in the long run it can affect children's emotions and behavior.
According to her, many parents tend to use anger to teach their children because this is the way they were raised when they were young. In many families, scolding or beating children is still seen as a way for children to listen and maintain discipline. However, children listening out of fear does not mean that children really understand the problem or change in a positive direction. Frequent scolding can make children lose confidence, easily anxious and afraid of making mistakes.
Some children gradually become withdrawn, rarely sharing emotions because they are afraid of being punished. They may feel unsafe even in their own families. This significantly affects the bond between parents and children. On the contrary, some children also develop a resistant, hot-tempered or aggressive behavior. When they regularly witness anger and violence from adults, children may see it as a way to resolve conflicts in life.
According to Dr. Preeti Singh, teaching children with violence can also affect children's learning and communication skills. Some children lack confidence, find it difficult to integrate or have difficulty building relationships with friends and those around them.
This expert also believes that children who grow up in environments that are often scolded may find it difficult to share emotions or reluctant to seek help when having problems. This sometimes causes children to silently endure psychological pressure for a long time.
Besides, parents being too angry can also cause children to develop negative thoughts about themselves. Some children always feel that they are wrong or not good enough to be loved and recognized. Instead of reacting with anger, experts encourage parents to talk calmly and help children understand the consequences of their actions. Establishing clear principles but still keeping listening and respect will help children receive more easily.
Parents should acknowledge their children's positive changes instead of just paying attention to mistakes. Timely encouragement helps children become confident and form positive behavior. Raising children is a journey that requires patience and companionship, because parents' daily behavior will affect children's personality and emotions later.
