When you were young, people often looked for someone outside, if something happened, they would text, if they were sad, they would make a coffee date, if they failed, they needed someone to hear you complain. But at some point, when the schedule of friends deviates, some are busy with children, some are busy with healing, you have to learn to be silent and be close to yourself.
First of all, know how to talk kindly to yourself instead of just keeping a grumpy voice in your head, pulling out old stories to blame one price like this, one price like that. Being friends with yourself is also knowing that being alone without feeling abandoned, is when one evening there are no odds, no drama to watch, you can still leisurely listen to music, enjoy a delicious dinner, watch a movie and not feel guilty for wasting time.
Many people know how to be friends with themselves. Being a neighbor on weekends or taking yourself to eat bun cha, ordering enough portions, leisurely enjoying without waiting for anyone; or a freelance friend who writes a few lines of diary every Monday morning to comfort himself, before turning on the computer to work. Those people are not always happy, but they rarely collapse because they know how to forgive themselves, not being strict with themselves as we usually tolerate others. Every day, be friends with yourself with very small things such as eating the right meal, sleeping a little earlier, saying "well, enough" when you are too tired. Just remember that you are also someone who needs support and the closest person to do that is none other than yourself. Then on a late evening when you come home from work, seeing the room dark and deserted, you no longer rush to turn on the TV to avoid fearing silence, but just smile, make your own teapot and feel light. Living like that, you will not necessarily be happier, but you will definitely be less
