One afternoon, you need to go to a new coffee shop and vaguely remember to turn left at the intersection, then go straight. So you just go straight ahead but you go for 5 minutes and then 10 minutes you see strange scenes on both sides of the road. But instead of turning back, you are confident you are not wrong, and going this far, turning back is a waste of effort! That is the most dangerous moment when mistakes begin to be protected by confidence.
In life, this phenomenon appears everywhere, not just on the streets. A media worker once firmly affirmed that his campaign hit the user's psychology. Data said the opposite: Low interaction, poor response. But he still continued to pour in more budget, because he thought it was not strong enough. When the money ran out, he was shocked by his unconventional firmness. An office worker believed that her colleague hated her openly. So she took the initiative to be indifferent first. As a result, her colleague started to be uncomfortable and she became more and more convinced that she was right. A perfect logical circle, only the starting point is wrong.
What is worth mentioning is not that people are wrong. Being wrong is normal, what is worth mentioning is that when we are wrong, we are even more confident to protect that mistake. It's like getting lost and speeding up, hoping to get to the destination faster in some way. Just like when you invest more in a decision, it's harder for you to give it up, even when you know it's wrong. But more simply, it's self-esteem that doesn't want to admit it: "Ah, it turns out I'm wrong". When walking with friends, if someone goes the wrong way, you will easily turn around more easily. But if you go alone, it's highly likely that you will try to continue. Because no one sees you wrong, so you don't want to admit it yourself. It sounds unreasonable but is very reasonable.
The danger of being too confident when going the wrong way does not lie in the fact that you are late for an appointment. It lies in the fact that you gradually get used to the feeling of "I'm always right", to the point of not checking again. And one fine day, you are not only lost on the map, but also lost in bigger decisions such as work, relationships, and even your way of looking at yourself.
Wise people are not people who always go right. They are simply people who know how to stop earlier than others. They dare to stand in the middle of the road, look around and say: "It seems like I went wrong". In fact, it is one of the bravest actions. Because sometimes, turning around is not a failure. It is just the fastest way to get back on the right track.
