Recently, people have seen criticisms in Saudi Arabia that the Pro League Organizing Committee "arranged" for Cristiano Ronaldo's Al Nassr club to win the championship this season. In Europe, it is the story of why this phase does not have a red card, that phase does not have a penalty. Or in Vietnam, coach Velizar Popov and some colleagues are quite harsh with referees in the V.League after each match. Although expressed in many ways, the story also has a common point emphasizing "biasm".
Prejudice is clearly unacceptable, but the problem is, why is prejudice always sent from the losers? It is a fairly common mechanism for people to protect themselves from adverse outcomes.
First of all, it is the need to maintain an image of oneself. Everyone wants to believe that they are capable and have done the right thing. When the result goes against that, the brain will find an explanation to "soothe the pain". Second is the feeling of loss of control. When not understanding clearly why they are losing, people tend to attribute the cause to a specific factor to "frame" the problem. Third is emotion - disappointment, anger, feeling of being treated unfairly... reducing the ability to evaluate objectively.
Of course, complaints are based on an event, a behavior, a specific situation, but it should be remembered that it is necessary to look at the overall picture of the event, of the match, even the side aspects to link to the result. Some people in the refereeing world share that teams focused on playing football will create goodwill with the match controller rather than just trying to complain and put pressure to make the match tense. Clearly, in a game, fairness is needed, emotions are still intertwined, but to publicly affirm a whole system favoring a certain team is emotional.
In life, such feelings are quite common, from family, class to agency, organization. The problem is, it's not the balance of power, but sometimes it comes from the way you enter the game. Of course, that does not mean accepting all injustices. But between the boundary of correct criticism and negative reaction is the time to feel. Slow down, observe the whole issue, name the emotions, stay with those difficult emotions, sometimes the answer is different.
