Many classes for mother among the people I know are teaching her child carefully from childhood to adulthood. They always argue that the biggest thing for children is to study, not to touch their homework.
I went to a friend's house and saw my wife's sister so busy cooking for her children to go to school, taking care of clothes, blankets, and even taking her bicycle to the middle of the yard for her son to prepare for school. "I don't force my children to do anything, both my brother and my sister. I just hope they study well, she said.
Of course, the way they love and pamper their children is not worth condemning until the couple has a long business trip. At home, there are probably... two young men but they hardly know what to do to take care of themselves. It seems that the way they raise their children seems to be very problematic, but what advice do I have to give?
Millions of parents still wonder: How to raise children well? The answer is sometimes simpler than long-standing educational theories: Start by setting an example.
According to observation theory by psychologist Albert Bandura, children learn behavior mainly through observing others - especially the closest people in the family environment. When parents deal with stress calmly, children learn to self-regulate their emotions. When parents listen patiently, their children gradually form empathy skills. When parents take their promises seriously, children understand the value of trust.
In a world full of change, what young people need most is not an " venerable" environment without mistakes, but the model of a kind adult who knows how to correct mistakes, keep words and live by principles. Children observe all behavior - from the way their parents talk to the seller, to whether they give way to the elderly or not.
Even when doing housework such as cooking, sweeping, washing clothes... parents should only set an example a few times, forcing children to observe and study, not doing everything instead.
A family does not need to be rich, nor does it need to be absolutely "steel disciplined". But if parents live honestly, love each other, are willing to apologize for mistakes and not blame others, and are willing to share the burden of housework, children will grow up in that environment to learn a sense of responsibility, gratitude and sincerity.
Parents cannot replace their children for life or protect them from temptations or mistakes forever. But by living rightly and living well every day, parents are lighting up small spots of fire in their children's souls - spots of fire that can guide, warm, and shine even the darkest moments.
In modern society, where technology and the rush of life easily make people forget the role of a father or mother, "being an example" becomes a precious value that needs to be cherished and reminded. It is not only a responsibility - but also the greatest gift parents can give to their children.
Be an example, don't do it for your children. That is also building culture in the family.
