No one is born without heart. And no wife enters marriage with the desire to endure loneliness. But life, without care and understanding, will cause love to wear down, trust to crack, and finally - a breakdown in silence.
1. Uncompromisingness is not noisy, but persistent and painful
A heartless husband does not have to be a bad person. They still go to work, still return home, still give money and fulfill their role as "pillars". But they are not present with a heart. They don't listen when their wife is sad, don't care when she's tired, and don't realize when their wife changes.
She changed her hairstyle, they didn't recognize it. She was silent, they thought it was "easier to accept". She cried - they thought she was "weakened". But those small things are the final cry for help of a heart that is cooling down because it is no longer properly loved.
2. When the wife is no longer herself
The wife is a soft, tolerant and emotional woman. But the wife who is abandoned in her own marriage will gradually become single. From a gentle person, she became cold. From a person who is always grumpy, she becomes quiet and indifferent. It's not that she's heartless, it's that she's lost faith in someone who listens to her.
The scariest thing is not anger, but coldness. It is not a culprit, but a suggestion. And when a woman gives up trying to heal, it means that her love is dead.
3. Husband is also a victim of misunderstanding
To be honest, not every man is intentionally heartless. Some people are caught up in the pressure of making a living, tired from the burden of "making pillars". Some people have never been taught how to express their feelings. Some people think: as long as you don't betray or abandon, that's enough to be a good husband.
But marriage does not only need someone "there", but needs someone "really present". No one can love someone who is just silent, only existing as a shadow. We all need to be loved, listened to, and recognized with full human emotions.
A man should learn to love not only through big actions, but also through seemingly small things: a greeting when his wife is tired, a handshake when she is silent, a full presence when children need a father.
Women should also learn not to keep any hurt in their hearts. Many wives, because they are afraid of their husbands' frustration, because they are used to being patient, gradually lose themselves. Say it - gently but clearly, so that your partner understands that you also need to be loved and cared for.
4. Marriage is not a suffering role
Women do not need a husband who is too strong and rich, just need a partner who knows how to look at their eyes and ask, Are you okay?, knows how to realize that today his wife is sad, knows how to voluntarily wash dishes when his wife is tired, knows how to hug his wife when she cries.
And men don't need a perfect wife. They need a woman who is ready to be by their side when they fail, not too demanding, not comparing, not denying their value just for a few moments of weakness.
No one is an angel in marriage. But if both of them try to be good to each other every day, the love will stay and grow over time.
5. Love does not die suddenly, but dies every day without care
Love does not need to be as intense as at first, but it must be cared for. Every gentle sentence, every surprise hug, every patience in dialogue - are all materials to keep the fire burning. When indifference takes center, the space in the family will be occupied by coldness, distance and fatigue.
If you are married - please don't live like two strangers under the same roof. Don't let one side side side side the other, while the other side stands still and turns your back. Marriage is not a place to exist, but a place to return to - enough to love, understand, warm enough.
An indifferent husband can kill love in his wife, but an indifferent wife can also cause her husband to lose himself. Marriage is a two-way road. Only when both of them step towards each other, learn to listen, care and forgive together - will happiness not only be a wish.
Don't let indifference become a mushroom to bury your dream of love.
