We have been married for more than 2 years, and have not had children because we are both young, so this time we are all focused on work and saving money to prepare for the future. Life is quite fulfilling when the job is good, the income is good, the couple support each other in everything.
If things continue, there will be nothing to say until one day after Tet, my husband announced that the couple's savings will support their younger brother to study abroad. I was even more shocked when I learned that he had given money to his parents-in-law without discussing anything with me.
I was very upset because that amount of money was not only his alone effort, but also my contribution. We originally planned to earn some money to buy an apartment in installments, but he suddenly changed his mind to "invest" in sending his younger brother to study abroad.
Before that, I discussed with him giving his parents a little money to repair the house that was quite dilapidated, but he did not agree with the reason that it could not be spent for personal purposes. I respect and find other ways to help my parents.
However, he went against what he told me, even disrespectfully asking for opinions but decided on his own. I was very sad and disappointed. In particular, I felt even more miserable when I heard him declare that when he got married, he had to follow his husband, and listen to everything he decided.
Why do you disrespect me like that? After all, it is "as husband and wife", how can I compare him with helping his younger brother? What I need is understanding and respecting the other person in every matter. With his patriarchy and increasingly encroachment, I was tired and I didn't know how long I would be able to endure this situation?
