Memories from technology, scratches from reality
Recently, Ms. Huyen Anh (Hanoi) suddenly became the main character of a story that no one wanted to go through.
While " Following the trend" of Google Maps to find the image of the neighborhood where the couple lived in 2019, she accidentally saw her husband standing next to a strange woman in front of an old apartment - the man's hand then hugged the woman's waist and kissed her.
"I was stunned. At that time, I just wish I had never printed it on the map, Ms. Huyen Anh shared.
The case of Ms. Minh Hoa - a lecturer at a university in Hanoi - is no less painful.
While traveling through the past using Google Maps to review the image of the old school where her husband used to work, she suddenly discovered a haunting scene: her husband holding hands with a female student, right in front of the school gate.
The photo was taken in 2018, when I was 5 months pregnant. At that time, we had been married for more than a year, Minh Hoa choked up.
When technology becomes a painful news reporter
Speaking to Lao Dong, psychotherapist Le Van Thang - Director of the People's psychotherapy Center of Hoa Viet - said that detecting a betrayal not through direct dialogue but through images, social networks or digital technology can make mental damage deeper.
There was no mental preparation. No chance to confirm or explain. People who are betrayed are more likely to fall into a crisis of trust, even developing anxiety disorder or depression, analyzed expert Le Van Thang.
He also emphasized: Any betrayal leaves great mental damage. That injury can destroy physical health and break down trust in marriage.
If the wife still wants to preserve the marriage, the expert said that it is important not to turn this discovery into a crisis.
For the first time, if you have enough basis and find the other person truly repented, start with a gentle conversation. It could be a serious warning but it won't hurt him any more," the expert said.
However, if the behavior repeats, the wife needs to prepare her mind for a deep - frank dialogue about the limits, beliefs and future of the relationship.
