Ms. Thu got married in 2018 after a short period of acquaintance. The early years of living together were relatively peaceful when the couple came to Ho Chi Minh City to start a business and soon welcomed their first child. However, economic pressure and taking care of young children gradually changed family life.
According to her, her husband spends more and more time on work, while she almost takes on the full responsibility of taking care of the children and managing the house.
The separation in married life gradually appeared through cold expressions and long trips. Despite having an unusual premonition, Ms. Thu still reassured herself. A turning point occurred when she accidentally discovered intimate messages between her husband and his cousin - a business partner. What shocked her was not only the affair, but also the relationship that went beyond the ethical boundaries of the family.
When confronted, both denied the romantic relationship and said it was just a joke. The unclear reaction from her husband's family made Ms. Thu feel more isolated. Psychologist To Nhi A said that normalizing the wrong relationships in the family can lead to a rift in the value system, causing insiders to fall into a crisis of trust.
During the period of mental breakdown, Ms. Thu continued to experience another serious event. Signs of psychological disorder caused her to seek sharing, but she fell into a situation of being abused by another man.
The overlapping shock completely disoriented her. According to psychologists, when a person is in a weak state without clear boundaries or lacks protection, they are very likely to become victims of wrongdoing.
After many years of struggling, Ms. Thu decided to end her six-year marriage. Two years after the divorce, she looked back at the event as a turning point to awaken herself. "I used to think I lost everything, but it turned out that was when I found myself again," she shared.
From a professional perspective, Dr. To Nhi A believes that economic difficulties or life pressures are just catalysts. What determines the sustainability of marriage lies in each person's character, boundaries and life values. When this foundation is shaken, relationships are prone to crisis.
Closing the story, Ms. Thu sent a message to young women: equip yourself with knowledge, understand your self-worth before entering marriage. According to her, emotions alone are not enough; inner strength and awareness are the factors that help each person stand firm in the face of adversity.
The story is not only a personal tragedy but also a warning about setting boundaries, protecting oneself and building a moral foundation in the family. Because sometimes, breakdown not only means loss but also opens up opportunities for people to look back, grow up and start a healthier life journey.
