In the process of raising children, many parents have a habit of taking advantage of "teaching them to remember immediately" when their children make mistakes and burst into tears. However, psychologists believe that this is the time when children are most difficult to accept teachings.
According to research from the American Psychological Association, when children are in a state of strong emotions such as fear, anger or self-pity, the brain will prioritize emotional responses instead of receiving new information.
When children cry, emotions overwhelm reason.
When they burst into tears, children are often not calm enough to understand what their parents are saying correctly. Scolding or analyzing right and wrong at this time is not only ineffective but also makes children feel hurt.
Instead of memorizing lessons, children tend to memorize negative feelings.
Teaching children at the wrong time can easily backfire.
Many parents think that being strict when their child is wrong is effective. But in reality, this can make children more afraid than understanding the problem.
According to experts published in Psychology Today, teaching children when they are losing emotional control can increase resistance or make children withdrawn.
What you need is reassurance first.
When a child cries, the most important thing is not a lesson, but a sense of security. A hug, gentle words, or silence by your side can sometimes be much more effective than a lengthy explanation.
When emotions are stabilized, children can listen and understand the problem.
Choose the right time to teach your child
After the child calms down, parents can gently talk to help them understand what happened and how to handle it better. This is when children easily receive and remember lessons the most.
Raising children is not only teaching the right thing, but also teaching at the right time. When parents know how to wait and understand their children's emotions, education will become much more effective and lighter.
