Sharing with MC Dai Nghia, Ms. Le Thu Thuy said that the predestined relationship between the two started from accidental meetings at the pagoda. Over time of chatting, Mr. Ha Van Man gradually developed feelings and actively pursued it.
According to his sharing with psychologist Dr. To Nhi A, what moved him was not only the gentleness of Mrs. Thu Thuy, but also the will of a woman who had experienced loss, more than ten years of raising children alone and living fully with family responsibilities. He believes that the meeting of the two is a special predestined relationship.
After more than a year of getting to know each other, the couple decided to get married. However, this journey was not entirely favorable when Mr. Van Man's family once opposed the relationship because of many differences. With steadfastness and seriousness, he gradually convinced his relatives. On the contrary, Mrs. Thu Thuy's family, especially her daughter, happily supported and accepted her mother's new happiness.
Recalling the period of getting to know each other, Ms. Thu Thuy frankly said that she had questioned him many times when she saw that Mr. Van Man was still single at that age. She humorously shared that she once suspected "not knowing if there was a problem or not". However, after a period of being together, she realized that her husband was decent, polite and gallant.
For his part, Mr. Van Man said that he has never been married simply because he has not met the right person.
When they moved in together, the differences gradually revealed, especially the jealousy of her husband. Ms. Thu Thuy said that her husband often controlled her living time, limiting her from meeting customers, and was not satisfied when she wore off-the-shoulder clothes or went out to eat with friends.
Explaining this, Mr. Van Man admitted that jealousy originated from his wife's marriage past, along with the nature of the gemstone business, which made her frequently contact male customers at the coffee shop. Once, in anger, he took all the items related to his wife's old relationships and smashed them.
Before MC Dai Nghia's question about how to make her husband feel more secure, Ms. Thu Thuy said that she had proactively invited her husband to come along in meetings to help him understand more about her work and relationships. However, having to constantly explain and be controlled made her gradually feel tired, stressed, and even sometimes had the intention to leave the marriage to find comfort for herself.
Analyzing the story from a professional perspective, psychologist Dr. To Nhi A said that the couple's problem lies in the lack of clear dialogue about boundaries and emotional needs. According to her, Mr. Van Man does not deny his wife's independence and strength, but wants her to show standards suitable for the role of a married person. Conversely, Ms. Thu Thuy also needs to recognize that excessive carefreeness, from dressing to keeping memorabilia of old relationships, can inadvertently hurt her husband.
Dr. To Nhi A believes that jealousy of the past often stems from a sense of insecurity, when the person in the present is not present in past memories. If not shared and understood properly, this can easily become a nightmare, eroding family happiness.
