Once wrote a divorce petition, "turned around" after a bowl of pho
Actor Anh Tuan - Nguyet Hang couple have been together for more than 3 decades. The artist couple started their love in 1991, when both were students of the 2nd Actress class of the Youth Theater.
At the age of 18, Anh Tuan was famous for being naughty and playful, while Nguyet Hang was mature, principled and a class official. The contrast made them once dislike each other. However, in their third year of university, the two suddenly developed feelings. Nguyet Hang admitted that she was "infatuated" before realizing behind her carefree appearance, Anh Tuan was an emotional and deep person.
Their love once faced opposition from both families. However, the couple still decided to get married in 1996, starting a life together with many accumulated difficulties.
The first 10-15 years of marriage were the most turbulent period. Personality conflicts, economic pressure, and failures at work caused both to constantly argue. Anh Tuan once admitted that he had been playful for a long time, not fully aware of family responsibilities. Meanwhile, Nguyet Hang had just given birth and had to work part-time to cover living expenses.
At the most difficult time, both were only supporting actors with meager salaries. Anh Tuan was doing business at a loss, in debt, and even had to sell his motorbike - the only means of transportation for the family. Nguyet Hang, not long after giving birth, had to rush into voice acting, "putting cotton in her ears to work" in deprived conditions.
Accumulated pressure made them want to let go many times. At the peak, the two wrote and signed a divorce petition. Mr. Tuan recalled: "When the couple signed the petition, I wanted to go our separate ways. I took my wife to the Ward People's Committee but not on the day of receiving the petition.
That "problem" became a turning point. "On the way home, we went to eat pho together, talked to each other and then changed our decision, no more divorce," the actor shared.
Not just once, they have many times stood on the verge of breaking up. Nguyet Hang once wrote a divorce petition, but then could not bear to leave. She said that just seeing her husband, she could forgive everything. Thinking of her child missing a father or mother, her heart tightened, unwilling to leave.
Harmonizing differences, preserving a home after 30 years
After years of turmoil, Anh Tuan - Nguyet Hang's marriage gradually entered a stable phase. The change is not in the circumstances, but in the way they perceive and adjust themselves.
The difference in personality still exists clearly. Nguyet Hang is a principled person, influenced by the military family tradition, always wanting her children to live with discipline. Conversely, Anh Tuan is comfortable, believing that children should experience and grow up on their own.
This is what makes them argue many times about raising children. The actor shared with Lao Dong: "Youth is very stubborn and always wants to defend their opinions. Let your children understand for themselves.
My family has 4 children, so we cannot correct them in a standard way just for each child. With the acting profession, my husband and I do not have fixed hours at home to take care of our children. Therefore, my children rise up on their own, think in their own way. I am just the person standing next to them to guide them.
Meanwhile, Nguyet Hang admits she is stricter but accepts her husband's differences because they can complement each other: "The children are very different, so we have to choose a teaching method that suits each child.
Currently, after more than 30 years of attachment, the couple has 4 children with their own personalities. The eldest daughter has married and settled abroad, the remaining children are growing up. Despite busy acting work and irregular hours, they still try to spend time with their families, maintaining joint trips every year.
The family's economic life is also gradually stabilizing. Anh Tuan has returned to acting and business, while Nguyet Hang continues to pursue art and take care of her family. Positive changes also come from the male actor himself when he gradually becomes less hot-tempered and cares more about his family.
From a non-romantic person, Anh Tuan now knows how to organize birthdays and wedding anniversaries to please his wife. Things that seem small are proof of change after many years of storms.
A special milestone in the marriage is that Nguyet Hang became pregnant with her fourth child at the age of 45. The appearance of a new member not only brought joy but also helped the family become more united.
Looking back at more than 30 years together, Anh Tuan - Nguyet Hang have been on the verge of collapse many times, but after all, they still chose to stay. For the couple, marriage is not without storms, but after each time they want to let go, they still decide to hold hands and continue.
