Relationships that do not need status
Not bound by marriage, status or promises of the future, many people are choosing free relationships. But behind that feeling of comfort are risks and injuries that not everyone anticipates.
Two years ago, Mr. Hoang Minh (27 years old, Hanoi) moved in to live with his lover and live as husband and wife but did not register their marriage. The two only maintained a simple agreement that as long as they love, they will be together.
“We love each other in a non-binding, non-prohibition, and no marriage registration style. I think as long as we are still together and care, seeing each other every day is enough,” Mr. Hoang Minh shared.
But after a while, his lover gradually drifted away. Until he accidentally saw her publicly holding someone else's hand, Hoang Minh realized that the relationship had ended a long time ago.
“It turns out that promises are only to say when we need each other. From the beginning, I accepted a love without constraints, so I have no right to demand anything,” said Mr. Hoang Minh.
Not only Mr. Hoang Minh, Ms. Pham Ha My (24 years old, Hanoi) also once chose this type of love after witnessing many times her friends under pressure about marriage. She and her boyfriend agreed not to set a goal of marriage, not to force each other about the future.
At first, I felt very comfortable because both of us have private space. But when there is a conflict, anyone can leave at any time because there is no commitment to keep them here," Ms. My recounted.
After more than a year of attachment, their relationship ended when they could no longer find common ground about the future.
Trends with many potential consequences
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy - Lecturer at the Second Regional Political Academy, an expert in Sociology, the trend of unbounded love reflects a change in the emotional perception of a part of young people today.
I think that when it is not binding, it is not necessarily true love, but close to dating and getting to know each other. You do not require the other person to commit or accompany for a long time. When happy, continue, when no longer suitable, leave," Dr. Pham Thi Thuy said.
According to experts, this trend is attractive because of the feeling of freedom, less responsibility pressure and helps individuals focus more on their current emotional needs. However, its downside is uncertainty and feelings of insecurity in relationships.
Young people think that this is a way not to lose personal freedom. But when there is no commitment, relationships are very easy to break down when difficulties or differences appear. That is the consequence that needs to be recognized," expert Pham Thi Thuy said.
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy, many young people turn to unbounded love because they want to be free and avoid commitment pressure. However, to maintain this type of relationship, both need to have maturity and sufficient trust in each other.
If there is a lack of trust and unity in expectations, the relationship is very likely to have distance. At that time, freedom can become the cause of silent separations," Dr. Pham Thi Thuy emphasized.
