Marrying a young husband, sweet but challenging love
Age-discussed relationships, especially when women are older than men, often start with the attraction between maturity and freshness. But when entering marriage, the gap in life experience, expectations and responsibilities easily becomes an unfulfilled gap.
Ms. Minh Huyen (Ba Dinh, Hanoi) once thought that she had found love outside of form. Her young husband, nearly 10 years younger than her, is aggressive, sweet, and knows how to listen - things that moved her after many years of singleness. They quickly got married after less than a year of dating.
"When I first got married, I felt like I was a dozen years young. Wherever he goes, he holds hands and always says sweet words. I used to think I was very lucky, Ms. Huyen shared.
However, life after marriage is not like a dream. After only a few months, the role gradually reversed when she went to work, worried about the economy, taking care of her children, doing housework, etc. Her husband was unemployed at home, sitting for hours playing games every day, not touching the housework.
"There are days when I am sick and bedridden, and he is just passionate about playing games without taking care of his children. I had to ask my parents-in-law to come and carry my child, thinking it was helpless, Ms. Huyen said.
Not only was she physically exhausted, she also felt hurt by the lack of sharing from her partner.
Accompanyment does not come from one side
Not only Ms. Minh Huyen, Ms. Tam Anh (Dong Da) also experienced a similar situation. As a business accountant, she married her husband who is 12 years younger - a relationship that began with attractive emotions and differences. But after two years of living together, what remains is the burden of building up and feeling alone.
"I have felt like I am the mother of a big child many times," Ms. Tam Anh choked up.
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy - Lecturer at the Regional II Academy of Politics - Sociologist, love between age groups can last if both of them are mature enough and share common values.
When you are in love with someone older, men are often attracted to maturity. But to maintain marriage, emotions are not enough. There needs to be unity in life views, parenting methods, finances... and especially the awareness of sharing responsibilities".
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy, marriage can only last when both are adults in the relationship, not one person who carries the burden of both.
