The story is shared in episode 14 of the program Perfect Piece, revolving around the life of Ms. Ngoc Tuoi - a Don ca tai tu artist and Mr. Van Xi - currently a security guard. Both have gone through breakups and came together with the desire to build a sustainable home. However, the reality of marriage is not as expected when small conflicts gradually accumulate over time.
According to Ms. Ngoc Tuoi's sharing, the biggest problem in the family is that her mother-in-law requires Mr. Van Xi to hand over all his salary to her for management. When she proposed to take charge of spending to take care of the family, her mother-in-law did not agree, even reacted harshly. This made her feel limited in the role of a wife in the family.
For his part, Mr. Van Xi said that giving salaries to his mother was a habit from before marriage. After getting married, changing this habit became difficult when his mother did not easily accept it. He shared that his parents were old, so their personality was somewhat stricter, causing him to fall into a difficult position when standing between his mother and his wife.
Not only stopping at financial issues, differences in thinking and living also create an invisible distance between members. Although feeling tired, Ms. Ngoc Tuoi still does not want to live separately because she is worried about her elderly mother-in-law, who needs someone to take care of her. However, the lack of common ground makes the family atmosphere always tense, lasting for many years.
From an expert's perspective, psychologist To Nhi A believes that the mother-in-law's actions are not entirely due to money, but also related to the psychology of fearing losing a position in the family when her son starts his own family. According to her, older people often find it difficult to adapt to changes, leading to holding onto old habits as a way to maintain a sense of security.
Agreeing with this view, MC Dai Nghia said that lack of communication is the main reason for prolonged conflicts. He believes that the husband needs to play a bridging role, proactively sharing so that his wife feels understood. At the same time, the wife should also take advantage of flexibility in communication to eliminate distance and create cohesion in the family.
Closing the story, Dr. To Nhi A gave a message: Each person cannot completely change the other, especially the elderly, but can adjust their behavior to harmonize relationships. When husband and wife are united and have unity, conflicts with both families will gradually be resolved.
The story of Ms. Ngoc Tuoi and Mr. Van Xi is a familiar cut in modern life, reflecting generational conflict and pressure when living with many generations under one roof. This is also a reminder of the importance of understanding and communication in maintaining family happiness.
