Ms. B began talking about her new relationship after 6 years to Dr. To Nhi A (lecturer at Ho Chi Minh City Central Pedagogical College). Putting aside her old love story, Ms. B went to work to raise her daughter and then she met a new person. After only a few months of knowing each other, Ms. B and this person decided to get married.
The reason Ms. B made such a quick decision was because she felt the care and love not only for her but also for her daughter. She still believes that she has chosen the right person, when he also has an 8-year-old child.
At first, the two agreed to love both children as their own children, but after a period of living together, he and his mother-in-law became prejudiced. After the two children competed for toys, Ms. B talked to her husband, but he was determined to defend his child and thought that Ms. B and her daughter were wrong. Ms. B's mother-in-law often scolded her and considered her a stranger. After many incidents, Ms. B decided to clarify everything with her husband and mother. Unable to receive sympathy in return, Ms. B and her daughter were tormented more.
Ms. B shared more: "When I was nearly 3 months pregnant, my husband and mother were very happy, I thought that maybe this child would heal the family affection. But then again, my husband wanted me to take his daughter to live with his grandmother because the finances were not enough. I did not agree because I did not want to be away from my children, and after many arguments, my husband beat me up, causing me to have an abortion. Ms. B decided to divorce because she did not want both her daughter and herself to suffer much pain.
After hearing the story, Dr. To Nhi A asked: "How do you react when you can't keep your child?". Ms. B replied: "He still felt normal and maybe he didn't need the child in my belly at that time. The mother-in-law is not loving and always says bitter words".
Dr. To Nhi A analyzed: First of all, I still support my divorce because it is related to the factor of violence. In addition, she was abused during pregnancy, and she did not discuss the right or wrong. But clearly the most important criterion for us to survive is too much risk. However, supporting does not mean that you are completely innocent or do not have any role in a breakup. Because if you do not realize this key, no matter who you are in a relationship with in the future, happiness will not come to you and your children".
Dr. To Nhi A advised: The ability to protect your child is so great that it makes me a little awkward in arranging the relationships of children. This requires enough alertness to realize, and later have a safe reaction for everyone, to sit together and accept solving the problem. I still think that every journey we go through brings certain values, what we need to do is look at those values to mature".
