Live together - harmony is not yet here, break up is near
The situation of trying on before marriage was once considered by many young people as a stepping stone to a long-term relationship.
However, reality is showing the opposite: many couples after a period of living together are in crisis, leading to separation or even divorce after a period of living together without constraints.
In Vietnam, according to data from the Institute for Family and Gender Studies, there are over 60,000 divorces each year, about 70% of which fall on young couples (aged from 18 to 30, and most of them occur after only 1 - 5 years of living together.
These figures show that uncertainty about the psychological and financial foundation as well as lack of understanding of each other are the core factors that cause disruption, even if you have tried it before.
Mr. Minh Hoang (21 years old, Hanoi), who chose to try living with his girlfriend who they have known since college, shared: "At first, I thought it was easy to be together but I increasingly felt different in many aspects. She spends wastefully, while she is under economic pressure. After 1 year of living together, we broke up quietly''.
Similarly, Ms. Thao Nga (28 years old, Hanoi) had lived together for 2 years before getting married, but only 9 months after getting married, the two divorced.
"I thought that trying was to get to know each other better, but in fact it caused the emotions to fade away. After marriage, the responsibility is heavier, the feelings are not too deep. We could not maintain that marriage" - Ms. Thao Nga said.
The consequence of living a life is losing faith in love
According to psychologist Nguyen Manh Cuong - NHC Vietnam Center for Psychology and Human Development, living like an expert is not simply a way to get to know the other person but also reflects many profound psychological and social factors.
Many young people have witnessed cracks in their families or previous broken relationships. This causes them to feel afraid of being tied, leading to choosing to try life as a test for love before reaching a long-term commitment' - Mr. Cuong analyzed.
Living together becomes a solution to maintain affection but still maintain personal freedom when modern life becomes more and more stressful.
"However, when living together, there will be no clear legal commitment, making it easier for couples to break up when conflicts arise. They lack the motivation to overcome the crisis together, which formal couples often have to face and solve together, said Mr. Cuong.
Experts emphasize that young people need to be alert when choosing to live. Don't just live on temporary emotions, but prepare carefully, including financial plans, having children, future orientation, and a clear roadmap for commitments.
"If you consider living together as a stepping stone to marriage, you should consider both legal factors to protect your rights and responsibilities in the future," the expert recommended.
