In married life, disagreements are common. Regardless of finances, parenting or living habits, small conflicts that are not resolved promptly can accumulate into major conflicts, affecting long-term attachment. According to Psychology Today, the key to reconciliation is effective communication and emotional control during stress.
One of the first steps to reduce stress is to temporarily stop arguing when emotions are too high. Instead of continuing to argue, being silent and making a time to talk when both are calmer will help the dialogue be constructive. This technique is called time-out, which is very popular in modern marriage therapy.
Proactive listening is also an important factor. Many people often interrupt or refute before understanding the other person's intentions. Instead, respond by repeating what they say in the way you understand it, which shows respect and empathy. A simple sentence like I/she is hurt because of... will help cool down instead of pushing the conflict up.
In addition, couples should avoid using negative words, repeating old mistakes or absolutely blaming. Instead, focusing on solutions, putting the common interest above personal ego will help create consensus. Some couples also use a shared diary to record daily emotions and communicate when needed, creating a soft bridge in communication.
Experts recommend that if the conflict persists and affects spiritual life, you should seek professional support from a marriage psychologist for more in-depth and objective support.
