sophisticated communication, the key to keeping the fire burning in marriage
In marriage, words are a bridge or barrier. A criticism, comparison or repeat of an old mistake can escalate the conflict. Psychologist Dr. Emily Lawson, Director of the New York Family Marriage Center (USA), emphasized: D front-line criticism or comparison with others can easily hurt the other person. Instead, let's discuss it gently and respect the emotions."
A popular saying to avoid is: "Why don't you look like...", or "You are always wrong". Ms. Lawson explained that these comparisons made the husband feel disrespected, leading to tension and emotional cracks. Instead of criticizing, the wife should use the sentence to share her feelings: "I feel sad when...", to help the other person easily accept and find a solution together.
Avoid " off-season" statements for long-lasting happiness
In addition, mocking, slandering or repeating old mistakes are also considered a forbidden area in communication between husband and wife. Remembering mistakes will create a vicious cycle of negativity, eroding trust and love, notes expert Lawson.
A recent study by the University of California (USA) shows that couples who know how to control their words, avoid causing harm, have a 40% higher happiness and bonding rate than couples who often criticize each other.
Supplementary communication is not only about avoiding hurtful words, but also nurturing the habit of respecting, encouraging and sharing emotions. When a couple knows how to say positive things, marriage will become a peaceful, happy and lasting place.
