Each stage of development, children will have different psychological needs, so parents also need to accompany them in the right way so that their children grow up confidently and stabilize their emotions.
Raising children is not about applying a method for all ages. There are things that parents do right when their children are young but become mistakes when their children grow up. Because each stage of child development has its own characteristics in terms of psychology, behavior and the need to be loved.
If parents understand each age correctly and adjust the way of accompanying appropriately, children will feel understood, easier to cooperate and develop healthily both emotionally and in life skills.
Below are suitable ways to accompany each age that parents should know.
At 0 to 1 year old, children need to feel absolutely safe.
At this stage, children cannot adjust their emotions themselves. The baby needs to be responded to quickly when crying, being carried, hugged and hearing familiar voices. Parents' regular conversations, caresses and creating a stable environment will help the baby form a sense of security, thereby sleeping better and less fussy.
In stages 1 to 3, children need to be explored and learn to control emotions.
This is the stage when children start to have an ego, like to do it themselves and are prone to scolding. Instead of scolding, parents should guide their children to call out their emotions, create simple and consistent rules. Parents need to be patient because children are learning to understand the world and learn to wait.
At the age of 3 to 6, children need to be recognized and learn self-reliance.
Children at this age start to like to be praised, like to be "adults" and want to prove that they can do it. Parents should let their children participate in simple housework, encourage them to dress themselves, clean toys themselves and eat themselves. The important thing is to praise at the right time so that children have the motivation to maintain good habits.
At the age of 6 to 10, children need gentle discipline and companionship in learning.
When children enter elementary school, learning becomes an important part. However, children still need parents to guide them on how to learn and build self-discipline, instead of just creating point pressure. Parents should listen, ask and create a positive learning environment so that children are not afraid of being wrong.
At the age of 10 to 15, children need to be respected and listened to.
Puberty causes children to have strong emotional changes. Many children become unapproachable, irritable, or less sociable. Instead of over-controlling, parents should play a companion role, respect privacy, and become someone their children can trust.
At the age of 15 and older, children need guidance instead of control.
When your child grows up, parents cannot manage them with commands. What your child needs is direction, advice and trust. Parents should talk like a big friend, helping your child build goals and take responsibility for their choices.
In fact, accompanying children is not about doing everything for them, but about changing the way of supporting each stage. When parents understand what their children need at each age, raising them will be easier and their children will also develop in the right direction.
