Tet is not only a reunion occasion but also a time when family relationships are "tested" by private questions, differences of opinion and invisible pressure. According to Psychology Today, family conflicts often do not originate from major problems, but from subtle communication and uncontrolled emotions.
One of the important tips is to agree in advance with your partner on how to behave when returning to both sides of the family. Consensus helps avoid misunderstandings and create a sense of mutual respect. The Gottman Institute - a famous marriage research organization in the US - points out that sustainable couples often prioritize "protecting each other from the big family", instead of remaining silent or standing on other people's side.
In addition, you should prepare neutral answers to sensitive questions such as children, income, or future plans. Smiling, thanking for attention, and skillfully changing topics are considered effective communication strategies, helping to maintain a positive atmosphere without offending anyone.
Another factor is the fair division of time for both families. According to Harvard Health Publishing, the feeling of being respected and recognized plays a major role in the satisfaction of family relationships. When both sides feel cared for, comparison or self-pity will be significantly reduced.
Finally, don't forget to take care of your own emotions. Short breaks, deep breathing, or private conversations with your partner when stressed will help you stay calm. Tet is an opportunity to nurture love, not to accumulate pressure.
Skillful behavior is not excessive humility, but knowing how to put respect and harmony above ego. When each member proactively maintains their words and attitude, Tet will truly become a peaceful time, where both families become more connected and understanding.
