In many marriage stories, the parents-in-law's excessive intervention in the lives of their son and daughter is often mentioned. When this happens for real, the impact on new family affection is obvious, especially for those who have just entered a new family.
Many couples after getting married still live with their parents-in-law, and many feel held to too much control. Not only spending management, private life, but also raising children becomes a problem if not approved by the mother-in-law.
seemingly simple decisions in daily life such as shopping, choosing a menu or spending time together can all become a source of stress.
Ms. Mai Linh (29 years old, Hanoi) shared: "When I first moved in together, I had to ask my parents-in-law for everything. At first, I tried to please him, but gradually felt uneasy. Not that parents are not good, but sometimes things are too detailed and too much intervention makes it difficult for my wife and I to keep our private space".
One of the major concerns of couples is the decision to move out alone. Do my parents-in-law understand and accept it? Will this make the husband feel awkward between the two women he loves? This is a situation that requires careful consideration to both protect marital happiness and maintain family harmony.
Many couples are under pressure from their parents, especially when living together. Establishing boundaries is very important. There must be a frank discussion and mutual respect, so that the whole family understands that the privacy of the couple is necessary.
practical experience shows that in marriage, the most difficult relationship is sometimes not with the matchmaker, but with the partner's parents. Her parents-in-law, from strangers, became close, but this closeness needed to come with a clear line. Regardless of whether they are compatible or not, establishing a boundary that both respects and protects the private life of a husband and wife is necessary.
Living together and facing the intervention of parents-in-law is not only a challenge, but also an opportunity to learn to communicate, understand and maintain reasonable boundaries. This is a way to protect the happiness of a couple while still maintaining respect for family members, helping the family relationship to be more lasting and harmonious.
